How To Keep A Friend

I have been screwing up all the good friendship I have so I think I should make a list for myself and update it from time to time so I get to learn from my past mistakes. Indeed, all I'm saying under here is the things I failed to do.

1. When your friend needs someone to talk to, listen. Focus on their words and nothing else no matter what situation you're in. You have no idea what they are going through and how much in pain they could be. Just be there and listen, respond only to not make it awkward but don't go and lecture her if you think its wrong. You can try constructive opinion if what they're doing is not right. Don't go and put more shit upon them and make them suffer more by your words that will only make it harder for them. You are their friend, don't add up the weight on their shoulders.

2. When your friend is sick, and they find you. Take good care of them. It means they don't know who else to find. Sick people are way more sensitive so treat them well. Push away your selfishness, but I hope your friend is quite understanding as well if youre a busy person. But nonetheless, just make sure you don't make them worried about little things because that's what make their sickness worst. This applies to any sick person, not just a friend. Do the things that would only please them. Yes, it means you have to be freaking careful in every single thing you do and watch every move.

3. If they come to you with a mountain of problems and you don't know how to solve it, read. If you can't find any solution that you could help out, again just listen and say the best thing you can to comfort them. Dont freaking go all over the place, to everyone to ask for opinions because you will somehow tell those people your friends problem which I don't think she is comfortable with. They trusts you, don't go and spread her shit to the World. It's not right, don't ask opinions. I mean like you can on certain things and if they allow you to do so, but it's better if you just give your own personal opinion rather than other peoples. If they wanted another person's opinion, they will get it themselves. Don't make yourself feel obliged to freaking solve the problem as if it's mathematics because at the end of the day the decision make is your friend and not you.

4. Don't hang out with the opposition (the person who your friend is obviously not okay with). DONT. WHAT THE HELL DO YOU THINK IT WOULD DO? You can ask a question or two but not to the extent of being friends and trying to be on both sides at the same time. You are a human being, be the better friend for you friend. You can try and tell them what you think if you feel like the opposite side is the right side but don't go to the other party as if you're betraying you friend. Yes, obviously that's the same as betraying. Don't be stupid. Be there for your friend, not the opposite side. You'll lose everything if you do that. Especially trust.